"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"

Postado em 20/08/2016.

Why some people have such a difficult relationship with the mirror when they're looking at themselves? 

There are days that we look at our own reflection and think "I'm good looking" or "I'm fine", or even (if you're feeling REALLY good about yourself) "OMG I'm so hot that I could kiss myself". The sad part is that this last kind of day (and even the good ones) seems to be kinda rare. Why is that?

I get it when you're a teenager. We're all trying to fit in, and when we don't feel comfortable about ourselves it's pretty hard to like what we see. It can happen with adults too, and even kids.  

Have you ever thought "I wish I looked like him/her?". Well, that can be true poison most of the time. We have to understand that we don't need to be like someone else, we just need to be ourselves because that's OK, it's enough.

Of course, sometimes we can have a little "improvement". Are you tired of your clothes? Buy new ones. You always wanted to be blonde, but never had the nerve to dye your hair? Just do it! If you hate it, paint it again. Do you think you're a little bit overweight and want to look hot in that dress? Do something, like exercises and maybe a diet. The most important is: change for yourself, not because of the others.

The way to happiness is to feel great about who you are, and I don't mean just in the apperance, but also about the person you are (your personality and everything else). I just wanted to focus on the apperance because I see SO MANY PEOPLE complaining about life, with low self esteem and not very satisfied with who they are. 

I don't know who said this sentence, but I really like it: "People can't love you if you don't love yourself". That's so true!

My suggestion for people who are not happy about what they look like is:

Have a nice conversation with your mirror (or don't, maybe just break it and forget about this subject). Think about your appearence, about what you like and what you don't, the reasons why you don't like some things and (if it's all about you and not because of somebody else) change the things you're not satisfied with. It's not that painful and you'll feel so much better later. After that, think about your personality and the good things in you. Your intelligence, your friends, your family, what you're studying and what you want to do about your future. Life can be sweet if we're sweet with ourselves. 

Remember we're always butterflies: changing, flying... Beautiful in a way that no one can imitate.

(I tried to make a nice philosofical quote, but I don't know if it's good. You can tell me hehe)

This is Hanna Marin from the show Pretty Little Liars.

Don't feel like her. Be happy, be confident :)

One more thing that Vini told me :3 Don't just look at yourself on the mirror, take a mirror and try to say everything that you don't like about yourself and everything that you like. You'll see that you'll find a lot of things that you like, even more than the things you dislike.